Wednesday, 4 May 2016

Self Acceptance

Who else struggles with self acceptance?

I feel like I'm the only one, but I know I can't be. As I write about this, it actually scares me. Because I'm thinking if I can't accept my flaws why should someone else. Yet, another thought comes to mind; isn't unconditional love accepting someone as they are and accepting the things they can't about themselves? I think it is.

I'm an emotional person. I get really hard on myself when I've messed up. I feel unworthy. I feel unwanted. I'm a crier. I withdraw. I need a lot of assurance - words of affirmation. I HATE these things about me. But I want someone else to love these things about me. Is it madness? I think it could be madness if I'm not willing to give the same I require. But I am willing. Very much so.

I'm fragile.

And if you are too, I just want to tell you that it is okay. Some may say we are insecure and even if so just know that we are all built different. It's our differences that make us beautiful. You are beautiful in your fragility. And honestly nobody is perfect. So as I encourage you to accept all of you, I will begin to do so too. And if you don't have someone in your life who accepts you with your lil faults,  it will come. Until then let's both remember that Christ accepts us as we are. Utterly and completely.

Be blessed

Xoxo

N.

Monday, 11 April 2016

Have a little Hope.

My definition of hope is so broad yet at the same time is narrow. 

Hope, translates as faith.  It is the act of believing in, or for something beyond reasonable doubt. The Bible tells us that Faith is the substance of things 'hoped' for, the evidence of things not yet seen. So the two essentially go hand in hand. Your feelings or thoughts of hope won't stand if you don't have the faith to believe, what you are hoping for. 

Having hope is an essential tool in life that we definitely all need but often times lack. And we lack it, because our foundation of faith is either shakey or non existent. And this can be a result of past experiences or even things we were taught or believed during our upbringing. The funny thing here is, that faith can take years to build and perfect. Whereas hope doesn't. Yet you still can't separate the two. 

The building blocks of faith are numerous. Life challenges are sure to contribute tremendously to your faith. The more you overcome challenges, the more your faith grows and becomes firm and this directly gives you more hope for your tomorrow. It gives you more hope for the next hurdle you may face. Another building block to your faith and in return increasing your hope, is celebrating the victories of others. Sometimes people find it hard to be happy for the next person. But there is something about celebrating another human being, that fosters and grows seeds of goodness within you. Some individuals aren't able to celebrate another. But celebrating and being happy for others, will open your eyes to just how many little miracles are taking place around us each and every day. 
And that is sure to give you hope! These are only two examples but there are plenty more ways to go about building your faith.

So none of these things, faith or hope, come naturally or as easily as we would like. It requires like most things in life, work to be put in. Actively thinking positive. Actively doing positive things. And actively acting in a positive manner. Because as we all know at the end of the day, anything worth having, requires work!

Be blessed.

Nina.

Monday, 18 January 2016

What are you doing for the poor?

The title of this post will really have you thinking, should you take a minute to seriously ponder on it.

In 2014  I use to buy additional non - perishables when I was doing my grocery shopping. The reason behind this was a need to give to those who had less than me. I would keep these perishables in the boot of my car and every morning or afternoon as I left my house, I would say a simple prayer. "Lord today set those on my path who I need to bless with this food". And every single time He would. Wether it was a beggar by the road or someone dishevelled and destitute walking by, I would stop to bless them.  Sometimes it would be the security lady or man at my complex that I felt could use the extra. The point is, there was always someone to bless.

I live by Christian principles..... as much as I possibly can. Every beginning of a new year I take a couple of days to fast and pray and try to set the tone for the year ahead. On the 1st day of fasting this year I felt in my heart and spirit, the Lord saying to me, "what are you doing for the poor?". This question came after I was praying something in the lines of 'Lord show me the purpose you want me to carry out' or 'what would please your heart for me to do'. I can't exactly remember too well. My time talking to God is always filled with a thousand and one back and forths.  But He's question to me was so clear. They were two statements actually. But the second ill share in another post.

See, come 2015 I had stopped my act of giving to the poor/needy. 2015 was a confusing year for me for the most part. And I was slacking in this area. Most times alot of us, if we are honest,  don't spare a second thought for the poor on a daily basis. Life happens and consumes us, so that there's only room left to think about ourselves. To cater for ourselves. Acts of kindness and giving don't have to be done on a big scale or platform for everyone to see and clap hands. The bible says when giving, do it so subtly that the right hand won't even know what the left hand is doing. But these days society has us believing that you can only make a difference if your giving is done on a big scale. It is not so.

I want to encourage you to give more. Actively take time out to bless the poor. Do it once a week for starters. But begin. Anything that you are able to do. That which we think is little could mean everything to somebody who doesn't have it.

We go through life selfishly enough as it is.

Your blessing and giving will not only bring joy to the recipient, it will please your heavenly Father. If that is who you believe in. Giving is one of the greatest spiritual gifts to have. The more you give the more you receive. This concept is true.

Proverbs 19 verse 17. If you help the poor, you are lending to the Lord and he will repay you!

Proverbs 22 verse 9. Blessed are those who are generous because the feed the poor.

And my favourite, Ephesians 2 verse 8-10. I will quote verse 10 only. "It is God himself who has made us what we are and given us new lives from Christ Jesus; and ages ago he planned that we should spend these lives in helping others".

All you have to do is make time. And help others.

Live better.

Be blessed.

N.







Wednesday, 13 January 2016

First Post - What to expect.

So I know blogs like these have become so cliché. It's almost as if every girl who has something to say about something has a blog nowadays. Yeah, I'm one of those girls. :)

First off, I would like to inform all the readers who will float with eager (maybe judgemental) eyes over the pages of LiveBetterLoveBetter, don't correct my grammatical or spelling errors.  Unfortunately I do not hold a Masters in English Lit or any of the sort. What I do possess though, is a pure heart, a little sense of humour and a desire to do good in this world we call ours, and inspire others. So if you get the jist of what I try to bring across in each post, let that be enough. It's really not about Wether I have all my commas and fulltsop's in place. I'm hoping it may be much more than that to you.

My blog will focus on things I'm passionate about, inquisitive about, with a dash of wisdom from all the lessons I've learnt throughout my life. And I hope this will be a life long journey, of awkward story telling, yet heartfelt posts from me to you.

So let's make a toast..... to the beginning of something new, to the beginning of a lifetime.

N.